This morning a friend shared an interview of Indira Nooyi, the CEO of Pepsico. This interview appeared in The Atlantic and in that Indira said that “women can never have it all.” She cited from her own life experience and actually told a story about how she once returned home excited to announce that she had been promoted. But even before Indira could catch a breath, Indira’s mother asks her to go get milk, when Indira asked why her mother hadn’t sent her husband or the house-help? Indira’s mother said “the husband (son-in-law) was too tired” and she forgot to ask the house-help. So Indira went and got the milk and banged it on the kitchen counter. Indira says “I banged it on the counter and I said, ‘I had great news for you. I’ve just been told that I’m going to be president on the Board of Directors. And all that you want me to do is go out and get the milk, what kind of a mom are you?’
And she said to me, ‘let me explain something to you. You might be president of PepsiCo. You might be on the board of directors. But when you enter this house, you’re the wife, you’re the daughter, you’re the daughter-in-law, you’re the mother. You’re all of that. Nobody else can take that place. So leave that damned crown in the garage. And don’t bring it into the house.’ You know I’ve never seen that crown.”
Indira is not alone, there are many women that don’t get to celebrate their professional achievements, because they are no good if you cannot be a “mother” “wife” “dil” “daughter”. Isn’t the word good up for debate? What makes a good mom. I might have issues with my mother but I know for one thing that she would never tell me that any of my achievement is small.
A friend, who is the mother of two daughters shared Nooyi’s story on facebook with the comment that the earlier women accept the truth the better it is. What is the truth here? What does having it all mean in the first place. In my opinion having it all means different things for different people. If it is doing well in one’s career is important for someone, whereas, for someone else it might mean making a home cooked meal from scratch for their child. Just let them be, appreciate other women and their choices even if they are different from yours. Support them and be there for them. Cherish the women in your family and try to make things easy for them and not difficult.
I need Feminism because, yes men can apparently have it all!
It is in moments like this that one needs to visit e a popular tumblr page dedicated to feminism has folks of all gender identities pose with placards telling why they need feminism and what purpose it will serve.I loved the idea and thought that this was an interesting way to educate and inform people about feminism. A lot of individuals consider feminism to be negative and harmful for the society, but this post is dedicated to understanding why feminism is important and why modern young women need it more than ever now.
1) Feminism is important because it will educate women first. Women are constantly putting other women down, and judging them by standards set by men. Women often join men in judging and shaming other women….Feminism fights against this trend
2) Feminism asks individuals to think of women as humans first and not as bodies. Feminism is important because we live in a world that thinks of female bodies as showpieces that should be stared at and complimented.
3) Feminism is important because we live in a culture that constantly judges women and makes them compete against each other. For instance home-makers judge working women and vice versa
4) Feminism is crucial because our daughters deserve to live in an equal world. It is their right to live in a world that does not judge them and lets them be whatever they want to be.
5) Feminism is needed because we still live in a world where women make 77 cents for every dollar that a man makes and are still unable to break the glass ceiling in corporate sectors.
8) We need feminism because for too long men have talked about women and tried to rationalize their issues. It’s time for women to speak up about their issues.
9) Feminism is the need of the hour because women in abusive relations are constantly advised to “stand up for themselves” while their abusers walk away with no guilt. Nobody ever tells the abuser to stop being abusive.
10) Feminism is necessary because equality is a right and not a privilege. We need women, especially the urban educated and privileged sisters, to care for their other lesser privileged sisters who fight each day of their life. Rather they say “if I can do it, why cannot you!”
11) Feminism is important because it will celebrate women’s achievements and not make them small or make them want to hide their success.